What Culture Calls Normal… God Calls a Wake-Up Call
Hey sweet friend, welcome back to Everyday Health for the Christian Woman. I’m so glad you’re here.
If you’ve been feeling anxious, exhausted, emotionally reactive, or like you’ve just lost your sparkle, you are not alone. Many women in midlife brush off these symptoms as “just hormones” or “normal for your age.” But what if they’re not random at all?
What if your body is giving you a wake-up call?
Today, I want to share with you a concept from Traditional Chinese Medicine that might help explain what’s going on—the Fire Element. And more importantly, I want to show you how God’s design offers both truth and healing.
Meet Rachel: A Relatable Midlife Story
Let me tell you about Rachel.
She’s 42, loves Jesus, and is the mom who does it all—leading Bible study, keeping up with her kids’ activities, managing the house. But lately, she confessed something that might sound familiar:
“I’m tired, but I can’t sleep. I cry at everything. I snap at my kids, then feel awful. I wake up sweating at 2 AM, and I can’t lose weight no matter how clean I eat. Am I losing it?”
No, sweet Rachel. She’s not “losing it.” Her Fire Element is out of balance. And maybe yours is too.
What Is the Fire Element?
In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the Fire Element governs:
Your heart
Your small intestine
Your mind and spirit (called your Shen)
Your ability to feel joy, peace, and connection
When Fire is balanced, you feel warm, alive, connected, and spiritually vibrant. When it’s out of balance—whether in excess or deficiency—everything feels off physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Symptoms of Fire Imbalance
🔥 Excess Fire may look like:
Racing thoughts or a rapid heartbeat
Insomnia or trouble falling asleep
Hot flashes or night sweats
Anxiety, irritability, or anger
PMS with intense mood swings
Talking quickly or feeling restless
🕯️ Deficient Fire may look like:
Emotional flatness or disconnect
Low mood or depression
Cold hands or chest
Forgetfulness or poor memory
Loss of joy or intimacy
Waking in the night for no reason
Like Rachel, many women swing between the two—wired one day, depleted the next.
What Causes Fire Imbalance?
Several factors can disrupt the Fire Element:
Long-term stress without true rest
Skipping meals or relying on caffeine and sugar
Inflammation from processed food
Nutrient depletion from constant giving and little restoring
Liver stagnation, which disrupts heart rhythm and adds heat
Unresolved emotional wounds
These root causes often explain why quick fixes never last.
Simple Ways to Restore the Fire
One powerful, natural way to rebalance Fire is through essential oils—plant-based gifts from the Lord.
For Excess Fire (anxiety, insomnia, overwhelm):
Lavender – Calms the nervous system
Roman Chamomile – Soothes anxious thoughts
Ylang Ylang – Lowers emotional intensity
Bergamot – Uplifts and breaks stagnation
Clary Calm – Wonderful for hormone swings and PMS
For Deficient Fire (low mood, flatness):
Frankincense – Grounds and lifts during prayer
Rose – Restores joy and feminine energy
Cedarwood – Anchors and comforts
Wild Orange – Invites joy and creativity
You can diffuse these oils, apply them to your chest or wrists, or add them to a bath with Epsom salts.
From a Biblical Perspective
Proverbs 4:23 reminds us:
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
You were not designed to live burned out, anxious, or numb. Your body wasn’t made to run on cortisol and caffeine. You were created for peace, steadiness, and wholeness.
When your Fire feels off, it’s not a failure—it’s a message. And God invites you to respond with His healing and truth.
Practical Next Steps
If this resonates with you, here are a few gentle ways to begin restoring balance:
Drink warm lemon water each morning to support detox.
Use castor oil packs for inflammation and hormone balance.
Diffuse calming oils before bed for deeper rest.
Walk barefoot outside and breathe in God’s peace.
And remember: you don’t have to figure it all out alone. Sometimes deeper support is what you truly need.
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Final Encouragement
Friend, you are not too much. You are not crazy. You are not weak.
You are a beautifully designed woman whose body is asking for help. And God delights in walking with you into healing. Don’t ignore the signs—take one small, brave step toward restoration today.
